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Have fun, learn something new and reconnect with your spouse with these conversation starters.
Man have we been busy the last few weeks. From sick kids to house hunting to taking care of extended family matters it seems like J and I have been running a million miles an hour in opposite directions. Some nights it’s all we can do to get the kids in bed before crashing ourselves. With the holidays coming up I know things are going to get even crazier for us so I wanted to plan a few things to keep our marriage fun and to keep the spark alive.
I’m sure we’re not the only couple in this same situation. Life happens and before long every conversation you have has to do with whose picking up who from soccer practice or what’s going on for the rest of the week. I remember when we were dating the many nights we would go out to dinner (or even just sitting at home on the patio) talking for hours. We would be done eating, have paid the bill, and still just sat talking, getting to know each other. And I realized I really missed that.
So I came up with a list. A list of 20 questions to start a new conversation. Things more deep than “How was your day?” These are fun questions to really help you reconnect and get to know your spouse (and yourself). These can also give you hints to things to gift your spouse (my husband is the hardest person to shop for) and things you can do for your spouse to make them happy/relaxed/feel good.
So now that you have the questions what do you do next? First step is to print your questions. You can print the full 8.5x 11 here or print smaller 3×5 cards here. Step two, cut the cards.
Step three, set your cards on your plates or next to your plates with dinner (try to have a dinner just for the two of you. If you do have kids for dinner you can involve them in the conversation too, just be sure to skip certain questions, like #14 and #15). Step four, start the conversations.
This doesn’t have to be a one time thing. There are a lot of questions and I would hope you don’t get through them all in one sitting (unless you’ve got a few hours). They’re meant to be conversation starters more than a question and answer session. So have fun and laugh a little!
When I asked J “If we had one day to spend together, alone, what would you want to do?” I wasn’t surprised that a certain something came up in conversation. But so did relax and watch a movie and give each other back rubs too. I picked a winner ladies! So that Sunday when I was flipping through coupons planning our next two weeks’ meals and grocery trip I saw a $2 off coupon for K-Y® products at Walmart. I decided to change things up a bit. When I went shopping I made a quick trip over to the health and beauty department and picked up a bottle of K-Y® Touch®. It was in a toned down package so I didn’t feel embarrassed or weird walking around the store and checking out.
When I got home I hid it in my nightstand to use when the time was right. One day my boys didn’t have a chance to nap and went to bed early so I surprised J with a little back rub. I used the K-Y® Touch® as a massage oil and loved how long it lasted but at the same time didn’t feel sticky or gooey. We normally use my hand lotion when we give each other back rubs and within a minute or two it’s completely dried up. The one time we used a real massage oil it left us (and our bed) sticky and wet; which isn’t a good thing when you are trying to fall asleep. J loved his back rub so much he offered to give me one and the night ended just the way he (and I wanted). The next day I woke up to him cleaning out the dishwasher and making the kids breakfast. It was a win-win for both of us!
So if you are feeling like you’re at a stand-still in your relationship print a copy of these questions and at dinner (or whenever) start a new conversation; you may be surprised at the answers! Also, stop by your Walmart and check out the K-Y® TOUCH®. Don’t forget the coupon!
How do you find time for you and that special someone when life gets hectic?
These conversation starters are such a fun idea, Sydney.
Carrie @huppiemama says
Thanks so much for sharing these fun ideas for conversation starters. #client
Thank you for all your help Carrie!